The wretched, ghastly thing

They say,
"The marriage fell apart"
Like it was a thing of its own
A living, breathing thing
That chose to pack up and leave
An entity separate from the two whole humans
Who came together to make it the wretched, ghastly thing that it was

"The marriage fell apart"
Him with his numerous girlfriends
The chlamydia one month, the pictures that surfaced on Facebook the next
Her with listening to friends and her mother "too much"
Working too long and too hard, not "giving him attention"

Then there was the miscarriage that nearly took her womb with it
And the days filled with medication and tears that followed
But soon, a baby latched unto the uterine wall properly and it grew and grew
And they both thought
Yes, finally
This will revive the marriage
Bring back passion and deep, true love

And the first few months
The baby did bring respite
They threw a large naming ceremony
Gave rice and Malt to the neighbours
Partied into the early morning
God has done it!
And it is marvellous in our sight!

But then another infection
And she "listened" to her friends and burnt his Ralph Lauren shirts in the garage and smashed in the windows of his Honda
And he cried like a baby
"No! No! My carrrr!"

And there was no going back from that
He fought her in the driveway
Like he was fighting a man his size
With her bruised eye and bloodied nose, she took Tejiri from the nanny and drove to Ughelli

The following months were nasty
In-laws insulting each other over phones scattered from Abeokuta to Ughelli
"Your daughter is mannerless!"
"Your son na ashewo!"
"Give us back our dowry!"
"Which yeye dowry una pay sef?"

Years later, after a trial separation, they tried to make it work
By then, he was dating a celebrity with something like a British accent, and she was branch manager, dating a customer who had a mansion in Bauchi
Tejiri had just turned 5 and they had sex in their old bedroom. It felt like a bad idea the morning after; lying naked in bed, Tejiri banging on the door, asking, "Mummy, is daddy in there?"

He promised to call
She promised to stay in touch
They promised to try

They didn't

And she listened to her friends, even though she yearned for him - "He doesn't love you anymore"
And you see, the Mallam in Bauchi, he was so good to her
And then she heard rumors that he was engaged to the celebrity
And she was soon served divorce papers
She wanted to call him and give the piece of shit a piece of her mind.
But she listened to her friends; she signed the papers

On his wedding day, his best friend asked why he looked so morose. He said he was nervous
But, really, he was still in love with her and it ached

They say,
"The marriage fell apart"
Like it was an entity separate from the two whole humans
Who came together to make it the wretched, ghastly thing that it was

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